I can't tell you how many times, after a breakup, I've thought to myself - Screw this. It's not worth it. No more, no more. Depending on the man and the situation, that feeling might last anywhere from a day to a year. Then those warm fuzzy feelings come creeping back in. Who am I kidding? Being with a man is a singular experience. Being with a great man is a miracle.
It's not just about sex either. That would be too easy. Ask yourself why you would want to be with any man for more than a single night. I know what I think. First, men allow us to be women. We can be soft and sentimental and drop that “I am woman, hear me roar” mentality that so many of us put on for appearances' sake. God forbid our friends and children and bosses see us as anything less than Superwoman. Carrying around that crown of strength and responsibility is hard. That sucker is heavy.
With men, women can form a very unique kind of intimate bond. I've been able to share deeply personal thoughts, feelings, dreams, and fantasies with the men in my life, things I would never have told my female BFF. Women are too quick to judge, to be catty, and to tell a secret. With men there is a different level of trust allowing that special intimacy that I've never found in my relationships with female friends.
And when we find ourselves fuming, steam coming out our nostrils or ready to bust out bawling, what better balm to our senses than a man's strong touch, deep voice, firm lips, and reassuring voice to add a little perspective. Unless, of course, the man is the reason you're steaming or crying. In that case, just go grab a chocolate bar and a cold bottle of tequila.
So, since we - men and women- seem destined, despite our best efforts, to travel this road together, we might as well enjoy the ride. There's no map, no guide and while the trip may be a tortuous one, it will never be boring.
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