A good woman can admit that there's times when SHE can be a pain in the ass, and shes thankful after those times pass that she has a man that puts up with *her* shit.
Yes, I have the balls to say it out loud...if you have ovaries, there's going to be times when you make absolutely no fucking sense to anyone but *YOU*. Most men do not want their wives or girlfriends to be unhappy, but when she cant convey whats even wrong, and no one, not even her knows what the problem is, you can't ever move forward in a relationship. There is nothing more frustrating for a man than to try to work out a problem with a woman that can't let go of anything.
A good woman works with you to resolve a problem, if she has a problem with you, she directly tells you what the problem is. She doesn't run around crying on the shoulders of anyone that will listen to her 'poor me' drivel, she stands up for what she wants. Lord knows if you let a woman feel sorry for herself, she will ride it out like shes crossing the country in a covered wagon......be in for a long...rough trip.
I wrote way too much..so I'm going to stop here and post part two next week. What are good woman qualities to you? I'm curious to know your thoughts on whats considered a 'good woman'
Remember............when you lurk and dont leave kudos....you lurk with Satan
Ok so we need to stop with the ovaries crap. If a woman is making no sense or moody or just a plain out bitch it's not because of her ovaries. Please you just gave most of the female population the perfect excuse to be all those things you mentioned above. lmao.... So what would the reason for a woman who has no ovaries if she is being a bitch, moody or just can't convey whats wrong? come on sometimes you guys just aren't very easy to talk to and act as if you could care less. so we do have a hard time conveying what we need to . So whats the excuse for you guys who don't convey whats wrong or are just plain assholes for no reason. hmmmm you have no ovaries oh it's probably cause your thinking with the wrong head maybe... oh hell maybe becasue your just not thinking at all. ok I'm done for now this is something I could go on and on about.
Considering i just had a hysterectomy last night, does that mean i will never be a bitch since i have only 1 ovary?
Befre my marriage failed i wasn the one who initated communication...he would withhold love affection and communication for up to 3 days. I was the one wh went to counseling even after he stopped.
He's the one that hated to accept any blame and when the counselor said "you're wrong" he bailed. Got a girlfriend and i no longer existed.
So what makes a good woman? Loyalty, Caring, Trustworhty, Loving, empathetic/sympathetic, good listener, smart, funny and beautiful.
Damn G that must be what happened to me, I had my hysterectomy and the bitch just left... I sure wish it would come back. I'm tired of being the nice girl who gets walked all over.
This year I witnessed a pattern....a relationship between a man and a cat that makes me laugh every time I tell the story.
Day 1
We were working construction in a rural Kentucky town and all of us had packed a lunch. When the noon hour approached, we walked over to our vehicles to all have lunch together. As we approached the cars, one of my co-workers had left his window down, and when he opened the car door, a house cat came flying out of my co-workers car and took off running down the street. The cat had eaten all of his lunch.....and had took a big ole hearty crap on the backseat of his car.....
Of course...I laughed and laughed ...but I shared my lunch with him. All through lunch he blamed the cat, and I agreed, no one could have foreseen that coming.
Day 2
As we were walking to the cars again at noon, suddenly my co-worker remembers that he had again left his window down and takes off running towards the car. Same thing as before, the
lunch was gone.....a steamy turd on the back seat....only this time my co-worker chased the cat down the street screaming obscenities while trying to kill the kitty by throwing his empty lunch box at it.
The cat would just run a little ways, wait for him to get close....then run a little farther staying out of the fury.
Of course.....all of us laughed until we had tears in our eyes...I again, shared my lunch. Even though the same thing happened the day prior, and he was aware this could happen, he still was enraged that it was all this cats fault, even though he could have prevented it.
Day 3
We get to work...My co-worker walks away from his car with the window down...I look at him and say " If you're going to feed that fucking cat again, I'm not sharing my lunch with you". He went
back and rolled his window up. Of course, when we came back from lunch, the cat was sitting on the roof of his car....waiting to be fed....and most likely had a turd knocking at the back door.
The moral of my story is this : If you're aware of a problem, yet you do nothing in your power to stop the pattern....is it the fault of the cat or the man? That man is still convinced to this day
the cat is completely to blame.....
To me....the cat was only doing what the man was allowing him to do. If we let someone in our lives that feeds off us and then takes a hearty dump on the relationship...who is to blame if we left that
window open from one relationship to the next?
Ever watch someone blame someone else......when you can clearly see its completely their fault? A funny story that ties into this?
Every 23 seconds in the United States a woman says 7 words that brings some of even the strongest of men to their knees.
"I'm not in love with you anymore"
Despite the hundreds of ovarian beat-downs you've received as a man about how you should care about frivolous shit that only matters to a woman.....the end of a relationship becomes the one time in your life that despite how you feel, that you shouldn't show you care. The Ovary can smell fear, and it does not fear relationship destruction.
In the early chapters we learned mans constant struggle to maintain balance in female happiness and the maddening indecisiveness that surrounds the Ovary in her inability to convey what she really wants.
Next we move on to the drama. While no woman claims to like or want drama in her life, the ovary is drawn to it like watching a slow motion train wreck happen. Unable to look away, If she cant be the center of drama, she will have a female friend or co-worker who is. Without a certain level of drama in her life, the ovary is certain to shrivel and die. Often times when a woman feels something is missing in her life, she will create the drama, but when it becomes too much for her to handle, she will attempt to flee from it in an effort to make it every ones fault but her own.....
Whenever you have a woman that's being indecisive about whether she wants to stay or go in a relationship.....you are taking a ride on the ODT (Ovarian Drama Train). The longer you stay on the train, the more emotionally expensive that train ride is going to be. Men unknowingly feed and allow that drama in their lives because they have no idea on how to stop it.
The end of a relationship often becomes a power struggle for who is right and who is wrong. As in nature, only the strong survive. A woman can be an emotional wreck all through the relationship, but at the end when she decides its over, she can be uncharacteristically strong. So strong, she can seemingly yield a barbaric wrath of heartlessness and destruction that would make Satan himself cower and hide when she enters the gates of hell. The female relationship pyromaniac leaves no bridge unburned in her path.
I don't believe that when women are in indecisive mode about whether they want to stay or go, that they always want to win, but far too often men give away all their power. Anytime you are trying to hold onto a woman that's not sure if she wants to stay or go, you are giving her the all power in the relationship. Women do not respect men once they hold that power over them. All you are doing is setting yourself up to be a hostage to the vagina.
In order to survive, you have to be stronger than her, and be willing to walk away. Most women have always been the driving force behind ending their relationships...It isn't until they meet a man that isn't willing to put up with her shit and walk away, that they start becoming accepting of their own faults a relationship.
Whoever said " All is fair in love and war" has obviously never been a passenger on the Ovarian Drama Train. Here are mistakes men make in trying to save their relationships...
#1 Agreeing to time apart
Unless children are involved, If she wants to leave and be apart, let her be the one that has to put herself out by living somewhere else. Women have been known to drag the leaving process out for over two years, and far to often men will be manipulated into believing that if they go crawl under a rock and wait she might feel differently. If she wants to go...let her be the one that goes. Time apart only works if you as the man hold the power.
#2 Agreeing to change
In a effort to stop the drama, men start caving to her long list of changes and emotional demands. All this does is confirm to her that all along she was right that it was all you. Women do not respect changes unless they have to earn them by making changes themselves. The Ovary works on the same concept as your auto insurance, it never assumes any responsibility for the wreck.
#3 Buying her gifts
Perhaps the worst attempt at saving a relationship on a mans part. All you're doing is giving her something to sell to come up with the retainer fee for her lawyer.
#4 Showing emotion
Women want a man who is stable and secure , The minute you start getting all emotional by crying, begging, and pleading with her to stay....She OWNS you. When men start acting like an emotional woman at the end of a relationship......women cant get away fast enough. Obviously even a woman doesn't like to put up with a woman :)
# 5 The belief a woman will 'let go' if you reason with her
The only thing a woman has ever been able to let go of in her entire life is a relationship. Then when you are upset that she dumps you....she will tell you that *you* need to let go. As if by some miracle, she now suddenly grasps that whole 'letting go' concept. A woman's reasons for leaving are usually based on emotional arguments and justifications that have no resolution. The only way a woman will let go is if she feels losing you is a greater pain than the joy she gets from holding onto a problem like its a precious stone.
#6 Writing or emailing her letters
That shit only works in "The Notebook" . In real life she forwards or passes the letters around for all her friends to read and discuss how pathetic you are.
#7 Calling or texting her nonstop
The most powerful emotion you can use to your advantage is if she misses you......let her miss you. Men are so paniced that shes going to jump right in bed with someone else right away they start smothering her with wanting to know her whereabouts constantly. I'm not going to lie, the modern day ovary is only about 7 minutes away from her next relationship...but if you don't give her a chance to miss you, she never will.
#8 Stalking
You are feeding her drama train when you show up anywhere without her invitation. Holding the power means letting her be paniced that you aren't playing her games, Relationships are only successful when a woman is fighting to hang onto you. Trying to hang onto a woman is the biggest waste of time on the planet.
#9 Relationship Counseling
The principles and theories of relationship counseling are based on logic and reason and it should realistically be a shoe-in that any man should win as long as you aren't beating her, cheating on her, or stealing her grocery money. Every woman that has ever entered relationship counseling has done so under the belief that she is going to have you crucified on the relationship cross. If her story is based on emotional justifications , what-if, and projections.....the day will come when she is told she is just as accountable for the problems in a relationship...
I call this " Deer in the headlights day"
Once the focus of the sessions turn to her inability to move forward and let go......the majority of women quit. If you're going to waste the money on counseling...keep your mouth shut and let the counselor deal with her....you are already there because shes so over read your intentions and anything you've said, she puts no value on what you have to say anyway.
Do not gloat when the tables turn on her.......in fact, the less you communicate with a woman all together, the better.....She cant keep fuel in the Drama Train if you aren't giving her things to bitch about.
I read this book and the one for the biggest mistakes women make. It's not a bible. Don't use it to determine what to do in a relationship. Listen to your own gut and heart.
What a wonderful blend of self-respect, logical theory of relationships, and a dash of experience-based misogyny that accompanies any sane evaluation of relationships with modern women!
What is the name of this Machiavellian labor of love that stoops to make women happy in the long run?
This is perhaps the toughest and the one you need to be the strongest on. While I believe the vagina was perhaps the greatest gift God ever created for mankind......I believe he put the wrong person in charge of it. While most women will never admit this, they've all used the false allure of sex to get men to jump through all sorts of hoops for them......And the end of a relationship is no different. If a woman is being indecisive about leaving or staying, she isn't one bit afraid to use her vagina to take all the power back and give herself more time in the leaving process. The ability to reject her sexually when shes on the Drama Train speaks volumes if shes using sex to try and control you.... It shows youre not as weak as she thought....
I'm looking for agreement or disagreement on this....and further examples that i may have missed of things men do that push women away even faster out of the relationship. Leave a kudo if nothing else...:)
I have never used the allure of sex to get a man to jump through hoops for me.. your aparently picking the wrong woman. If your being controlled by a womans vagina than your just fucking weak to begin with. what pushes me away from a guy the quickest is if he is to needy and stuck up my ass. I don't want to lead a man around he needs to have his own life.
There is always the exception, not all women are evil. This is merely a collection of my thoughts and perceptions. I have watched a great number of friends and loved ones go through life never quite understanding that when its over; its over.
For me there is nothing more wonderful than the Love and Affection of someone I care for. All too often us MEN do not know when to let go. Your so correct that being needy and clingy is not attractive.
I like for a guy to show he wants to be with me and spend time together, just don't want his head stuck up my ass. If I can lead him around than Thats a turn off.
i've never used my body to control my relationship. I would use it only to end an argument and make up. You might want to examine your 'type' of woman you go for.
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