Unadulterated Advice

Jean Valjean

A:  My skin crawls when I read questions like this about a woman conspiring to put the yoke on yet another man.

Yes it is too soon for a LTR.

Separations are notorious for ending in reconciliations. Besides, there's a reason you are both divorced/divorcing. It's either because you suck at long term commitments, are impossible to live with, or use poor judgment in mate selection.

And what's with the obsession with this guy? I bet you've already planned the wedding and you barely know him.

I think you are in love with the idea of a relationship without actually understanding what a LTR means.

My advice is to chill out.

Date the guy if you want but let the relationship progress naturally. It's a mutual decision to move the relationship to long term status.

Seeking advice on how to wrangle him into another relationship shows that you aren't willing to consider what his feelings are. If you think he's getting divorced because he likes to be controlled by women then you need your head checked.

But then again if he's stupid enough to get suckered again then he's just as thoughtless as you are.

- Jean Valjean